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Scanners, Screw Work Let’s Play, and the 30 Day Challenge

When I first read John William’s book Screw Work, Let’s Play I felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders.  There was a name for someone with my disease and it’s called a “scanner”.  For years I had thought that there must be something wrong with me, the fact that I have multiple interests, I write 3 blogs on completely different topics, I’ve never felt fully satisfied just having one single focus in my career.  Apparently there are loads of other people out there, my people, who suffer from the same affliction.  But there is a way to conquer this disease and it starts by reading Screw Work, Let’s Play.

Catchy title, no?  Intrigued, yes? This book is all about dismissing the notion that there is one single thing/career out there for you and if you just find it you’ll be happy.  Have you ever met someone or have you ever introduced yourself as “I work in X, but I’m really Y?”  You may be a scanner too.  The phrase scanner was first coined by self improvement guru Barbara Sher but John has built a whole cult following around the concept and runs monthly scanner events in London so people can embrace their multifaceted selves and learn to just play for play sake.  It really cuts through the whole notion that work is hard.  Work is not hard, play doesn’t mean you should have to do it for free, and actually by playing at your strengths you’ll develop activities that will lead to your first “play check.”

When I read Screw Work, Let’s Play a light went off for me.  I finally understood a very important part about my motivation and talents and how to use them rather than fight against them and more importantly to stop feeling bad about myself for being different from my colleagues.  By embracing the scanner within me, I could finally be myself and not feel ashamed.

In the month of May this year I decided to embark on the 30 Day Challenge.  This brought 200 scanners into an online community where we all committed to “playing” for 20 minutes a day for the whole month and completing 1 goal.  Committing to 1 thing for 1 month was like torture to me at first.  I just couldn’t decided what to focus on.  Ahhhh focus, cringe, my blood runs cold just remembering what it was like picking 1 thing to focus on.  In the end, the day before the online community opened I decided (aided by my good friend the career coach) to completely overhaul my travel blog Kat’s Travel.  When I set the blog up last summer I put absolutely no thought at all into the name, branding, what it was about (except for travel).  I just simply logged into wordpress.com picked the first blog template that didn’t offend me and poof! Kat’s Travel was born.

After spending a minimum of 20 minutes a day for a month on creating a new self hosted wordpress site, I turned this:

Into this:

The Dual Life is quite a big improvement I think.  And I’m wicked proud of it.  Wow, if I could do that in a month, just think what I could do if I “played” 20 minutes a day every single month!  Sky is the limit!  Sadly on the back of the May high, in June I fell into old habits of just coasting along and playing but without any real direction.  And while you need to do this from time to time to recharge the batteries and jump start the creativity, I found it hard to get going again.  Then I got introduced to Play to Win a spin-off of the 30 day challenge.  It’s less intense, but I’m still committed to playing for 20 minutes every day.

This month I’m playing at blogging without caring what others think.  It’s a lot harder than you may think, at least for me it is.  My debut blog post appeared on Natural Beautee last week where I blogged about my failed hair experiment where I tried to give up shampoo entirely for 1 month.  Then hopefully you will have seen that I came out of the closet on my own mental health in a post here about cognitive behavioural therapy.  I can’t say that I’m 100% always enjoying blogging without caring what others think, but I am finding it rather cathartic, plus I’m really pushing myself personally and I think at the end of the month I’ll be really pleased that I did!  What do you think about being a scanner?  Does it resonate with you at all?

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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – The Feeling Good Handbook

I’ve suffered from panic attacks for as long as I can remember.  Only I didn’t realise until recently that that’s what they were. To put it into context the last time in my life that I remember feeling calm and confident was before puberty.   Earlier this year I went through a particularly rough patch, my weight plummeted 10 pounds, I was nauseous all the time, I couldn’t sleep, I felt my world was collapsing in on me.  Everything I knew or thought I knew about myself and my life was turned on its head.  I knew that it was finally time to get professional help.  Frankly, I shouldn’t have waited so long.

Don’t judge a book by its cheesy pic of a doctor on the cover

Navigating the National Health Service is a story unto itself but finally I found a great private psychiatrist and for the first time in my life I felt that someone was truly qualified to understand and help me.  I was diagnosed with a “moderate” case of anxiety and depression.  For “severe” cases patients are prescribed both drugs as well as therapy.  For “mild” cases patients are only prescribed therapy and not given the option of drugs.  For “moderate” cases you get to choose whether you want to take drugs or not as well as therapy.  I opted for no drugs as I wanted to have a go with just the therapy to see if I could conquer my symptoms au naturelle.  Plus if that didn’t work I could always opt for drugs later.  This is an extremely difficult and personal choice which each individual in the same situation has to make for themselves.  I don’t judge other people for choosing the drug option.  You have to do what’s right for you!

In terms of therapy I was prescribed Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).  I was told by my doctor that CBT by itself has the greatest success rate of any other intervention (whether drug or therapy) for treating anxiety and depression.  Its premise is that your thoughts control your moods.  If you can learn to change your thoughts, then you can change the way you feel.  Cognitive therapists believe that negative thinking patterns are what actually cause you to feel depressed and anxious.  This is not a treatment for the fainthearted as there is a lot of individual responsibility placed on the patient for their own health.  You start by reading a book on CBT which has exercises that the patient must complete (I was recommended The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David D Burns).  There is a lighter version of this book available if you want to get a taste what CBT is all about called Feeling Good.  During sessions with your CBT therapist you share your homework and discuss how you are applying the various techniques.

Keeping a mood log can help you overcome distorted thinking

All of the exercises in The Feeling Good Handbook are about identifying the “distorted thoughts” and applying different techniques to combat those negative thoughts.  When I first read through the list of 10 distorted thoughts I could instantly recognise that I regularly use all of them.  Do any of these sound familiar to you?

1. All-or-nothing-thinking – You see things in black or white categories.  If a situation falls short of perfect,  you see it as a total failure.

2. Overgeneralization – You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat by using words such as “always” or “never” when you think about it.

3. Mental filter – You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively, so that your vision of all of reality becomes darkened like the drop of ink that discolours a glass of water.

4. Discounting the positive – You reject positive experiences by insisting that they “don’t count.” If you do a good job you may tell yourself that it wasn’t good enough or that anyone could have done it as well.

5. Jumping to conclusions – You interpret things negatively when there are no facts or support to your conclusion.  This is broken into two further subcategories – mind reading: when you arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you without checking it out, and fortune-telling: when you predict that things will turn out badly.

6. Magnification – You exaggerate the importance of problems and shortcomings, or you minimise the importance of your desirable qualities, also known as “binocular trick.”

7. Emotional reasoning – You assume that your negative emotions reflect the way things truly are.

8. Should statements – You tell yourself the way that things should be the way that you hoped or expected them to be.

9. Labelling – An extreme form of “all-or-nothing” thinking.  You label yourself or others with negative labels.

10. Personalisation and blame – You hold yourself personally responsible for an event that isn’t entirely under your control or you blame others/circumstances for your problems.

Looks like the kitty is looking into a distorted mirror

This list might seem a little overwhelming.  Who knew that there were so many ways to twist your thinking?!  My biggest challenging is to put a kibosh on jumping to conclusions.  I’m a terrible mind-reader and fortune-teller.  In fact I’m doing it right now mind-reading what you might be thinking as you read this blog post!

The good news is that there are many techniques that you can learn to combat the twisted thinking plus there are lots of worksheets every step of the way as you read The Feel Good Handbook.  Regardless of whether or not your feelings would classify on a clinical scale of anxiety or depression I think we can always improve ourselves and we should always strive to feel better and be better.  Isn’t that what life is all about?  Otherwise I think the world would be a very boring place indeed.

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Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – Don’t Worry, Be Happy

The principle lecturer on my Human Resources Management masters course would be mortified to know that the greatest subject matter that has stuck with me since I graduated is Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs motivation theory.  Well, maybe she would be fine with this but it was a miniscule topic compared to everything else that we studied for 2 years.  The reason why it reasonates so much with me today is because it’s a theory that helps explain what motivates people in life.  And life I have always found very interesting.

According to Maslow there are 5 levels of needs starting with the most basic at the bottom of the pyramid  (physiological needs such as air, water, sleep, excretion) and working your way up to what I would describe as first-world or Western problems (esteem and self actualisation).  I mean you must be pretty lucky indeed if your struggle for self actualisation is your biggest worry!

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs courtesy of Wikipedia

Enter me stage left.  I’m neither Gen X, nor Gen Y.  I do remember life before the internet came around but I began my adult life after it and I can’t honestly imagine a world without it. How on earth did we used to make restaurant reservations?  By looking up a number in the phone book and calling on the phone?  I don’t remember the last time I called a restaurant let alone looked up a number in a phone book.  I’ve been making my restaurant reservations online for at least the last 5 years.

I was raised during an era when saving your money was what you were supposed to do, I came of age when overleveraging yourself on credit cards was too easy to do and Manolo Blahniks became a more accessible brand for the modern woman.  I have been having an early-life crisis since my late 20s and now in my early 30s it doesn’t show any signs of relenting.  What is life all about?  Why are we all here?  I’m doing everything that is expected of me.  I have a good job, a wonderful family, I take a vacation every 3 months abroad.  So why do I feel unsatisfied that I’m not ticking all of the boxes at the top of Maslow’s pyramid?

Let me beat you to the punch.  Yes I’m aware we are in one of the most devastating economic crises since the Great Depression of the 1930s.  So I should really count my blessings that I still have physiological and safety needs met.  Many people today are losing their jobs and therefore their security.  If you stand in line at any soup kitchen or visit any developing countries you’ll see that many more people are even losing basic physiological needs such as food and water.  Note to self – get some perspective mate.  I know this in my mind, but why can’t I feel it in my heart?

Interestingly no where in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is happiness listed.  I guess happiness is what you get if all of your needs are met.  Or does it mean that happiness is not a motivator?  Or is happiness a fairly modern concept since Maslow first published his Hierarchy of Needs in 1943?  UK Prime Minister David Cameron is taking an active interest in his citizens’ happiness.  In fact, he asked the Office for National Statistics to try to measure it.  Click here to find out the results.

In yogic terms I should be expressing gratitude for all of the needs that I have met or in the immortal words of Bobby McFerrin “Don’t worry, be happy.”  It’s impossible not to be happy listening to this tune!

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